Not saying she doesn't want to meet up with him again, flat out, yet saying she doesn't want to call it a date says one thing pretty clearly that's really difficult to see when you're a single guy. As a married guy, I can see it clearly even though he can't. What it says is, "you're not bad, so I want to keep you on the bench just in case. But I'm gonna go do some shopping around to see if I can't do better before I tell you I'm willing to date you."

Now, if she just flat out refused to meet up with him again? That's clear. If she said she'd like a date? That's clear. Continuing to talk and meet up with him while telling him she doesn't want to call it a date? As a single guy, that's clear as a glass of mud. Analyzing it from afar makes it clear, but being there in the moment makes it a confusing mess.

I'd tell him to get out now and run like the wind, but it's not always that easy when you're the one being strung along.

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